I have pretty much decided that, regardless of what my own good intentions might be for the coming year, there is something going on with the resolutions of others. I’ve no doubt that many people decided to: take charge! take no prisoners! be assertive! take no from no one! And, I can say confidently that “to be nicer to everyone” was not a top-trending resolution.
I try very hard to start every interaction from a new place. Really. So I turn away from one out of control, stubborn, needy, angry, demanding person and face the next one hoping to do my best for them too. And BLAM, they start swinging. Wow.
Two in a row today. BLAM. I was nice in a very restrained sort of way. I didn’t want them to define what *I* did, but damn if I was going to be all fake and nicey-nice. I was matter-of-fact and efficient and polite. And at the end, both of them sort of apologized for “being rough at the beginning” and gave some lame excuse. I told them to have a nice day, and was glad that they at least noticed that their behavior was not acceptable. I’m sure they called me a few names in their heads but you know what? I don’t care.
